One of the things that held me back from pursuing my dreams for many years was fear of failure … and the lack of self-confidence that I needed to overcome that fear.
It’s something we all face, to some degree, I think. The key question: how do you overcome that fear?
By working on your self-confidence and self-esteem. Without really thinking of it in those terms, that’s what I’ve been doing over the years, and that’s what helped me finally overcome my fears, and finally pursue my dreams.
I still have those fears, undoubtedly. But now I know that I can beat them, that I can break through that wall of fear and come out on the other side. I’ve done it many times now, and that success will fuel further success.
Kill negative thoughts. Goes hand-in-hand with the above item, but it’s so important that I made it a separate item. You have to learn to be aware of your self-talk, the thoughts you have about yourself and what you’re doing. When I was running, sometimes my mind would start to say, “This is too hard. I want to stop and go watch TV.” Well, I soon learned to recognize this negative self-talk, and soon I learned a trick that changed everything in my life: I would imagine that a negative thought was a bug, and I would vigilantly be on the lookout for these bugs. When I caught one, I would stomp on it (mentally of course) and squash it. Kill it dead. Then replace it with a positive one. (“C’mon, I can do this! Only one mile left!”)
Get to know yourself. When going into battle, the wisest general learns to know his enemy very, very well. You can’t defeat the enemy without knowing him. And when you’re trying to overcome a negative self-image and replace it with self-confidence, your enemy is yourself. Get to know yourself well. Start listening to your thoughts. Start writing a journal about yourself, and about the thoughts you have about yourself, and analyzing why you have such negative thoughts. And then think about the good things about yourself, the things you can do well, the things you like. Start thinking about your limitations, and whether they’re real limitations or just ones you’ve allowed to be placed there, artificially. Dig deep within yourself, and you’ll come out (eventually) with even greater self-confidence.
Act positive. More than just thinking positive, you have to put it into action. Action, actually, is the key to developing self-confidence. It’s one thing to learn to think positive, but when you start acting on it, you change yourself, one action at a time. You are what you do, and so if you change what you do, you change what you are. Act in a positive way, take action instead of telling yourself you can’t, be positive. Talk to people in a positive way, put energy into your actions. You’ll soon start to notice a difference.
Set a small goal and achieve it. People often make the mistake of shooting for the moon, and then when they fail, they get discouraged. Instead, shoot for something much more achievable. Set a goal you know you can achieve, and then achieve it. You’ll feel good about that. Now set another small goal and achieve that. The more you achieve small goals, the better you’ll be at it, and the better you’ll feel. Soon you’ll be setting bigger (but still achievable) goals and achieving those too.
Hi beautiful singers,
I am SO very proud of all those who took part in the showcase!
I was privilidged to hold (and sing!) the first showcase at Absolute Music in the performance room!
Well done to all.
I am SUPER PROUD!!!
Here's to the next one : )
"You must be shapeless, formless, like water. When you pour water in a cup, it becomes the cup. When you pour water in a bottle, it becomes the bottle. When you pour water in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Water can drip and it can crash. Become like water my friend.”
Bruce Lee, what a legend! I adore this quote. One can take it in numerous ways when it comes to the voice. But I like to think of it relating to the flow. Let your voice be like water. It's amazing how it can do so much and create so many different sounds on so many different pitches. We create the obsticals for water to go around. Sometimes, we build a dam (tension) and it stops our flow. Stop and take a breath if your finding a word difficult.
Learn to flow. Let it flow. Let your voice flow. Create your own style.
Just want to give a shout out to Anya! She is doing so well, and only has had 8 lessons! I am already very proud of her and I wonder where her and her voice will go in the future. She has motivation, determination, and a passion for singing. : )
Keep it up Anya!
Well done to singing student Calvin (oh and me! hehe) for singing and providing singing and music for the Street Kitchen Charity event on 15th October 2016.
Here's what Calvin has to say;
Had a fun singing lesson wit Rebecca Moore today, then went to perform at the 'Bournemouth Street Kitchen' Lunch for the homeless, Rebecca gave a flawless performance wowing everyone in the room, then I bashed out a few classic songs too, The people were given a simple meal of shepherds pie and apple crumble with a selection of hot and cold beverages. They were so appreciative even of the little things such as a hot cup of tea. Hope fully for a couple of hours Rebecca and myself helped them to forget their worries and helped to make their lives a little more bearable, What makes me really sad is knowing all the lovely folks I met today will be spending this evening in the pouring rain with wet doorways as their only shelter. It makes you realise how lucky we are, Those who know me, know I don't really do music for fame and fortune but because I enjoy performing but I promise if I am ever lucky enough to have any level of fame and fortune I will do every thing in my power to help the homeless and those less fortunate than myself. Please take a minute tonight to think of those who are sleeping rough and remember how lucky you are :)
VOLUNTEERS will give “restaurant-style” service as well as practical support to people in need this Saturday.Street Kitchen will be at Richmond Hill St Andrew’s United Reformed Church in the town centre on Saturday, October 15, 12noon-3pm.
A team will serve their guests a two-course hot meal prepared by town centre cafe South Coast Roast. Street Kitchen will be open to the homeless and to others who would benefit from its services.
A team of experts will be on hand to offer guidance, support or a chat to people who need it.
It is the second time Street Kitchen has been tried in the town.
Suroma Halder, event organiser and owner of Street Kitchen, said: “Our last event in May was a great success and an excellent learning curve. We had the opportunity to speak to many of our guests which was fantastic. From that we took away how we could improve our services, which we have now set that in motion for phase two of Street Kitchen.
“Our aim is to evolve Street Kitchen, and to continue to extend our offerings.”
Each guest will leave with a “survival kit” donated by local businesses and individuals.
One guest said after the previous Street Kitchen: “‘I can’t do anything on an empty stomach – just shows I’m human. Thanks for the best meal I’ve had in a long while. I feel I could do something worthwhile now.”
Rebecca is a professional vocal coach and singer in her own right with many years of performing and coaching experience. She is passionate with all things singing related!